My Parents Said I Have To Babysit For My Sister Or Find A New Place To Live

My phone won’t stop buzzing. It’s my mom and my sister, Corina, sending texts back-to-back. You’d think I committed a crime or something. All I did was say no.

Corina had a baby about a month ago. I’m 16, and she’s 20. Ever since she brought him home, my parents have been on my case to go over and “meet my nephew.” I haven’t. Honestly, I don’t ever want to. After what Corina did, I don’t feel like I even have a sister anymore.

Yesterday, she called and asked—well, told—me that I need to start babysitting. Every night after school, from when I get home until 11 p.m. She said her husband needs to work and she needs a break. A break to do what, I have no idea. I have homework, I have my own life. I’m not free child care.

When I said no, all hell broke loose. My mom called me, saying Corina was crying and that I was being selfish. I tried to explain that it’s not fair to ask that of me, but she wouldn’t listen. The conversation ended with her saying, “We’ll talk about this tonight.”

It wasn’t a talk. It was an ambush. My dad sat me down and said that as long as I live under their roof, I will contribute to this family. He said Corina is struggling and I’m the only one who can help. I just kept shaking my head, saying, “She should have thought of that before.”

My dad’s face got hard. “This isn’t a negotiation, Dariel. You have until tomorrow morning to change your mind.” He stood up and walked out of the room for a minute, then came back holding an envelope. He tossed it on the table in front of me. It wasn’t sealed, and I could see the edge of some kind of brochure inside—

It was for a teen homeless shelter.

I looked up at him, shocked. “You’re kidding.”

He wasn’t. “If you can’t be part of this family, you can find another place to stay.”

That night I barely slept. Not because I was scared, but because I was angry. Corina wasn’t some single mom doing this all on her own. She lived two blocks away in a decent house with her husband, who worked full-time. She had support. But she also had a history of dumping her problems on other people—especially me.

When I was 12, Corina “borrowed” my birthday money and never gave it back. At 14, she took my clothes without asking and stained them. My parents always made excuses for her. “She’s older, she’s going through a lot.” I’m starting to think Corina could set the house on fire and they’d still ask if she needed a nap.

But now? They were kicking me out.

The next morning, I packed a bag. Just a backpack, really—some clothes, my toothbrush, charger. I didn’t say anything to my parents. I just left the envelope on the kitchen counter with a sticky note that said, “I guess I found a new place to live.”

I went to my best friend Liora’s house. Her mom answered the door and took one look at me and said, “Whatever happened, you can stay here tonight.”

That night turned into a week. Then two.

Liora’s mom, Gina, didn’t ask too many questions at first. She made me dinner, helped me stay on top of schoolwork, and even cleared out a drawer in Liora’s room so I didn’t have to keep living out of my backpack.

Eventually, I told her everything—about Corina, the baby, the ultimatum.

She didn’t say anything for a few seconds. Then she said, “You’re not crazy for feeling used. Family helps family, but help is something you offer, not something you’re forced into.”

That sentence stuck with me.

I thought my parents would reach out, apologize, or at least check if I was okay. But they didn’t. Days turned into weeks, and nothing. Not even a text.

Then one afternoon, I got a message from Corina.

“Thanks for making this all about you. Mom and Dad are super stressed. You could’ve just helped for a bit, but you had to be dramatic.”

I didn’t reply. I just stared at my screen, wondering how she couldn’t see what she was doing.

But karma has this funny way of circling back.

A few weeks later, I was walking past the local rec center when I saw a flyer on the bulletin board: “Teen Voices Leadership Grant – $5,000 for a student with a story to tell.”

I snapped a picture.

That night, I started typing.

I wrote about what happened, but not in a bitter way. I wrote about boundaries, about how hard it is when people think being related to someone means you owe them everything. I wrote about wanting to be more than a babysitter, more than a doormat.

Two months later, I got an email saying I was one of three finalists.

I didn’t tell anyone but Liora and her mom. Not because I was trying to be secretive—I just didn’t want to jinx it.

When I finally won, I cried. Not just because of the money, but because someone, somewhere, thought my voice mattered.

That win changed things.

Gina helped me open a student savings account. I used some of the money to enroll in a weekend digital design course. I’d always loved creating art, but now I had the tools to turn it into something more.

Around that same time, Corina’s husband left her.

Apparently, she’d been going out every weekend under the excuse of “needing a break” and wasn’t actually coming back until 3 or 4 a.m. He eventually caught on, checked her phone, and found out she’d been messaging some guy she met online.

My parents were devastated. Corina moved back in with them—with the baby.

And guess what? Now they were the ones babysitting.

Liora told me that Corina posted some vague rant online about “fake people who abandon family,” and I just laughed. I didn’t need to respond. She had created her own mess.

One day, I got a call from my mom. I hesitated before answering.

She sounded tired.

“Dariel,” she said, “Can we talk?”

I stayed quiet.

“We were wrong. I was wrong,” she continued. “I didn’t see it before, but you were just a kid. It wasn’t your job to take care of her problems.”

I almost hung up, but something in her voice felt real.

“I miss you,” she said. “Dad does too.”

There was silence for a while.

Then she added, “If you ever want to come by… we’d like to hear more about that award you won.”

I said I’d think about it.

Weeks passed. I kept living with Liora and her mom, who by then had become like family to me.

Eventually, I decided to visit.

It was awkward, stepping into that house again. Corina didn’t say much. Just looked at me, the baby in her arms. He was cute, to be fair. Wide brown eyes and a fuzzy head of hair.

I didn’t hold him, but I smiled.

My dad hugged me. It was stiff, but real.

They didn’t ask me to move back in. They didn’t even mention babysitting.

Instead, they asked about my class, my art, what I wanted to do after high school.

It felt… different.

After that, I visited once every couple of weeks. Never too long. Just enough to keep the door open.

Corina eventually got her own place again, but the damage was done. Our relationship was never the same. And maybe that’s okay.

Sometimes, family doesn’t heal in the way you want it to. But it doesn’t mean you can’t heal.

Now, I’m a senior. I just got into a design program at a state university. Full scholarship.

I still live with Gina and Liora. They said I could stay as long as I need.

I think back sometimes to that night—sitting at the kitchen table, looking at that envelope.

It could’ve broken me.

But it didn’t.

It became the start of me learning that love isn’t about being used, or guilted, or forced.

Love is offered freely. It’s chosen.

So no—I’m not a babysitter.

I’m a survivor of family pressure, a kid who stood up for herself, and a girl with a future that I chose.

And if you’ve ever been told to sacrifice yourself for someone else’s choices?

Just remember: It’s okay to say no.

Sometimes “no” is the bravest thing you’ll ever say.

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